NLP* Lifecoaching of Stanislaus County*
Who we are today is defined by our life's experiences and the beliefs we formed about those experiences. How we fit into the world around us is a reflection of those beliefs...
It has been well proven that "if you change the way you think, you will change the way you feel"...
Do you want to feel better? Live better? YOU already have all the resources you need, and I can help you TAP into them!
Have you ever noticed...
- CHILDREN WILL DEVELOP STOMACH ACHES worrying about an upcoming test at school, or out of fear of a school bully. How about you? Do you ever get sick, get a backache or a headache worrying about some upcoming event, taxes, too many bills, the security of your job, the current state of the economy, or just mounting stress in your life, like everything is "caving in" on you? Negative thoughts can affect our health and our RELATIONSHIPS!...
- AS AN ADULT, have you ever noticed that if you routinely think "dark", negative thoughts, perhaps of past mistakes, traumatic events, or negative "what if . . ." scenarios in life, then you begin to lose energy, maybe of actually feeling lethargic? You may for that moment get depressed, or may stay depressed and it can ruin your whole day . . . week . . . or if consistently enough, even your life. . . You may begin to feel "stuck", with a feeling of powerlessness, an inability to "move on" emotionally. . . with no motivation to do anything? Even getting out of bed in the morning can seem like an insurmountable task.
WHEN TRAUMA OCCURS in our lives, the very nature of them can affect our self-esteem so much that it can be reflected in and influence every major decision we make in life, for instance:
- CHOICES FOR EMPLOYMENT, (we don't deserve a better job, better pay, or "I'm not smart enough"),
- CHOOSING A LIFE PARTNER that results in being detrimental to our health and well-being (we may unconsciously believe we "deserve" to be "punished", or that we don't deserve to be happy, or feel so degraded about ourselves that we inevitably choose an abusive partner because that's what we believe is "normal" and we feel or believe that's all we deserve). Then sometimes we ourselves unwittingly keep the cycle going and actually become the abusers...
- THESE BELIEFS ABOUT OURSELVES can be so deeply embedded that they can be at the very core of our beliefs. More often than not, they originate in our childhood, beliefs that we form about ourselves based on our upbringing. Intentional or not, it is the reflection of how we are treated by our caregivers from birth on. If we are raised by loving, affectionate, caring, considerate parents or caregivers, we will believe that we have value, that we are loved and that we deserve to be loved. If we are raised by selfish, abusive, neglectful, raging parents, we will believe that we are an "imposition", that we are "in the way", we aren't "worthy" of anything good. That we are just "taking up space" . You get the idea...
Consistent negative thoughts and beliefs over a long enough time have actually been found to change the chemistry of our brains, often diagnosed as clinical depression. . .
You are not alone. Most people believe that whatever thoughts come into our minds are random; that we have no power or control over them. Anger, depression, frustration, sorrow or loss can "take up residence" if we allow it. And life can have its own difficulties without our adding to it the burdens of negative past memories of regrets, traumas, phobias, fears, etc. wouldn't you agree?
When we are able to change our thought patterns to be consistently positive, of actually having that sense of control over all our own thoughts, then how light-hearted and energetic we feel! How empowering that can be!
What would that look like? How would you move around in the world? How would YOU feel? Check out the next page to see what services I offer then...
Call me today, to really start living your life in a whole, NEW way!
(209) 679-4602
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